There are two people both enrolled in a psychology program. Both end up with degrees in said psychology program, but only the second person pursues a job in the field. Both have similar academic achievement, and both retained a vast knowledge of the program’s teachings. Equally speaking they are both very close in their knowledge and academics, but again, only one person pursued a job in the field. In post secondary education, and self learning in general, I see it all the time… people who are book smart but do not apply what they learn to their lives, and that disconnect leaves little in the way of passion.
Those who teach are usually the ones who are passionate to some level about what they have learned prior to educating you. That concept is not limited to schools either, but it spans to places such as construction sites to social interactions amongst friends. Learning is a beautiful way to build yourself as a man, but that learning means nothing if you do not apply that learning to yourself in some way. Whether that means forming your own opinion, reinforcing an old opinion or completely demolishing a current one. When we learn only to build grades we do not form an opinion based off of the knowledge and we become placeholders for that knowledge, and ultimately we do not become the builders of civilization and culture that the men before us had become.
When a child sings a radio song it is not because they have interpreted the words of the song and understand them, but because they are mimicking what they hear to gain social favor from other adults and children. Those children are placeholders of that knowledge. Similarly there was a brief documentary looking at the autistic gentleman the the film Rain Man was based on. The autistic gentleman could recite, in detail, even the smallest of details regarding human history, and it was all accurate. If the autistic gentleman would be tested on human history, he would have incredible scores, ones that would imply he is a genius in that field. However, after your initial shock of a man having such incredible memory, you realize that he is only reflecting what he has read, and not interpreting it an any meaningful way. He is no different than the child singing a popular radio song with no knowledge of the lyrics.
Learning, no matter what you are doing it for, should be approached critically and interpretively. Otherwise you are simply becoming a reflection of what you are learning and ignore why the knowledge was being taught in the first place. I write this blog because I am passionate about what I have learned on my own and am currently learning. To some degree it becomes an element of teaching and educating others on my own experiences and hopefully they can apply it to their own lives.
I meet a lot of gentlemen who learn game and do not actually understand why the theorization works, but only regurgitate what they have read and spout the same openers over and over again. The field of pick up feels more like a social-psychological experiment and advancement in human interactions than it does a juvenile attempt at getting “laid.” With that being said, the people who turned the field into more of a social-psychological experiment, were also the ones who were passionate about the relations between humans. Those gentlemen who regurgitate game concepts only because they know that having that knowledge has lead some men to getting laid, usually end up unfulfilled and with poorer results than the gentleman like myself who write and joyfully encourage other men into wanting to learn and educate themselves on the sexes.
The point I am trying to get across is not simply about how learning game will benefit you only if you take game teachings in interpretively, but how your lifestyle and learning will flourish if you can apply what you learn, no matter what it is, to yourself and become passionate about it.
The reason the second person pursued a career in that field is not because they are better than person one, but because they are passionate about that field and applied the knowledge they learned to themselves in a personal way that becomes meaningful enough for them to want to become apart of something.
Pick up artists, at least the ones that are fighting for the manosphere, have been largely misinterpreted by many readers/followers with the belief that being alpha is the end all be all approach to female/male relationship dynamics. I strongly believe that if you are approaching life from an abundance of pussy angle, then being purely alpha is the best way to approach things. However, if you want or enjoy having a committed relationship(s) as well, then you have to change things up or else issues will occur. The issue here is that being completely alpha and being in a committed relationship does not mix. You have to slip up sometimes and be what you have been taught is wrong… and become beta.
Women DO want beta males, but not in the way you think. They want the beta male when they are feeling vulnerable or low on themselves, and they want the beta male when they are feeling emotional, and most of all they want the beta male when they feel unwanted by their boyfriend/love-interest/alpha-gentleman. Beta males provide the validation that her ego needs. However, those same beta-tendencies are absolute pussy repellent… Sometimes.
Monogamy has bottle-necked the sexes. I would assume in caveman times the alphas would fuck the shit out of the group of women, the betas would get to join in sometimes, but rarely, and then the alphas would leave to do things manly-gentleman of that period would do while the betas consoled the females hoping that pussy would fall into their lap one day. Now, with monogamy pushing the one-person-to-every-person policy, men who want commitment have to not only be the alphas that fuck the shit out of women, but also that beta male that consoles them or else those women will leave or cheat on them. So as a man, while your charming lines and cocky remarks will most-definitely get the girl, they will only keep her invested for short term flings. If that is your sort of thing, then by any means go for it. However, if you want actual commitment from a female, you will have to put the game you so fondly live by away temporarily and give her glimpses of you as a beta male so she will continue loving you.
The factor of interest here to remember though, is that if you remain mostly alpha, but show her glimpses of you being beta, in her mind your alphaness will amplify. Why? Because it provides hard contrast and gives her that ‘fairy-tale’ romance feeling, and it warms her heart thinking she has tamed the untameable man… Until you become alpha shortly after and in turn amplify your alphaness even more. This combo will keep her in a constant state of love for you because you have captured all of her feminine needs, and you have given her the alpha male that fucks her so hard that it makes her WANT to be female, and you give her the beta male that VALIDATES her as a female.
Remember, while women leave or cheat on their boyfriends all the time for being too beta, they also do the same for men who are too alpha. While cheating is probably lessened for men who are too alpha, breakups are not. There are men who are so alpha towards their women that the women cannot take them past anything but a good fucking and an asshole who only used them for sex. Think to the standard romance films and the archetypal female friend who asks the woman why she puts up with her asshole boyfriend. The woman almost always responds: “because you don’t know him like I do.” That is female for: “he has a soft side that no one sees, and he fucks me incredibly well.”
If you want a true committed relationship and you want her to still love you after years of being together, then be the man that makes her say to her friends: “because you don’t know him like I do.”
Because that gentleman, is an everything man.